Blessings from our home…

October 28, 2011

To the boys of my life

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Dear mga anak,

Wow, this is my first time to write to both of you online. Well, I just want to let you know that I have already bought 2 notebooks (in which dad is complaining why I dont have one for him) where I wrote my letters for you both almost everyday. Since I dont go online all the time, I opted to write in on the notebooks I bought for you both. Dad was very excited and teary eyed when he saw the n0tebooks and read some of my entries. He said that writing is really part of me (oh well.. just forget my grammar hehehe)

I love you boys (and yes Kuya, I do have 3 boys — Dad, you and ading heheheh)!

Much Love,

mommy

September 7, 2011

Thankful to GOD today and always

Dear Anak,

A while ago, (before lunch), you asked me to help you fix your toygun and rope so you could bring it up on your bed. But sadly, I couldn’t understand what you wanted me to do so you got frustrated and we had an argument. I told you to finished lunch and then go to bed afterwards (Afternoon nap). I’m amazed that when I checked you in the room, you were already sound asleep. Thanks GOD!:) Sana ganyan lagi hehehe.:) I’m now sleepy too so might as well sleep beside you. Until my next letter. Love yoU!

Love,
Mommy

July 26, 2011

Separation Anxiety, Skeleton Finder and more..

Dear Anak,

Yesterday, (Jul 25, 2011) Daddy left for the land of vintas. Days before his trip, you were telling him that you will miss him and that you want to go with him. We even considered going after him in few days but I can’t find cheap fares anymore so we just have to wait for him to be back by weekend. Anyway, your cough is back since Sunday. So I had to put you on aloe vera gel and lagundi and other vitamins diet plus lots of fruits so you can regain your health soon. I also gave you back and foot massage before sleep and you just love it so much that you said ” mommy yung pareho kagabi na massage ha”. Please get well soon.

Early morning yesterday, when I told you that we will have homeschool lessons, you said “Ayaw ko mag homeschool kasi wala si Daddy”. Hmmm.. You got me on that. You are using dad’s absence to get away from your lessons Huh?? hehehehe.. Anyway, I didn’t push the idea instead, I let you play and discovered new things again with your toys. That’s still learning anyway. I hope I can finish the flash cards soon so we can do more reading lessons.

Last weekend (saturday, jul 24 2o11), while eating fried fish, you exclaimed ” I’m a skeleton finder!”. Akala ko kung ano, may nakita ka lang palang tinik ng isda” hehehe. I thought you wanted to become an archaeologist although you said you would want that too — discovering fossils of dinosaurs.

Last night, we slept late since we watched TV ( a lot!)Earlier last night, we went to HB1 to buy pineapple juice and yogurt. Then, we also went to Jollibee to have chiken macaroni soup and peach mango pie. Then you told me to cook chicken macaroni soup at home so we went back t9o HB1 to buy chicken, milk and creamy corn. We took a taxi home then cook your requested food. Now we still have it and I think it could last the whole day plus the Paksiw which I cooked for breakfast yesterday. Now you want it for breakfast again.:) In fairness, ang dami mong nakain!:)

We had “mango party” since yesterday because our neighbor is selling at only 30 pesos per kilo! Yummy and sweet mangoes! yahooo!!!

This is it for now. I will write again later or tmrw. Lets enjoy our day!:)

Love,
mommy

Separation Anxiety, Skeleton Finder and more..

Dear Anak,

Yesterday, (Jul 25, 2011) Daddy left for the land of vintas. Days before his trip, you were telling him that you will miss him and that you want to go with him. We even considered going after him in few days but I can’t find cheap fares anymore so we just have to wait for him to be back by weekend. Anyway, your cough is back since Sunday. So I had to put you on aloe vera gel and lagundi and other vitamins diet plus lots of fruits so you can regain your health soon. I also gave you back and foot massage before sleep and you just love it so much that you said ” mommy yung pareho kagabi na massage ha”. Please get well soon.

Early morning yesterday, when I told you that we will have homeschool lessons, you said “Ayaw ko mag homeschool kasi wala si Daddy”. Hmmm.. You got me on that. You are using dad’s absence to get away from your lessons Huh?? hehehehe.. Anyway, I didn’t push the idea instead, I let you play and discovered new things again with your toys. That’s still learning anyway. I hope I can finish the flash cards soon so we can do more reading lessons.

Last weekend (saturday, jul 24 2o11), while eating fried fish, you exclaimed ” I’m a skeleton finder!”. Akala ko kung ano, may nakita ka lang palang tinik ng isda” hehehe. I thought you wanted to become an archaeologist although you said you would want that too — discovering fossils of dinosaurs.

Last night, we slept late since we watched TV ( a lot!)Earlier last night, we went to HB1 to buy pineapple juice and yogurt. Then, we also went to Jollibee to have chiken macaroni soup and peach mango pie. Then you told me to cook chicken macaroni soup at home so we went back t9o HB1 to buy chicken, milk and creamy corn. We took a taxi home then cook your requested food. Now we still have it and I think it could last the whole day plus the Paksiw which I cooked for breakfast yesterday. Now you want it for breakfast again.:) In fairness, ang dami mong nakain!:)

We had “mango party” since yesterday because our neighbor is selling at only 30 pesos per kilo! Yummy and sweet mangoes! yahooo!!!

This is it for now. I will write again later or tmrw. Lets enjoy our day!:)

Love,
mommy

July 4, 2011

Homeschooling

Dear Anak,

We started homeschooling (formal) last June 13, 2011. At first, I had to photocopy books of Uncle A. I based our lessons there for a week or so. But after researching homeschooling materials online, I discovered that there are tons of materials to chose from! This is gonna be an exciting journey indeed!

I am overwhelmed with all the online resources and more so that we are learning together. Aside from reading and math, you have learned geography, sports and of course your all time favorite, train and airplanes.:)

Homeschooling has been a blessing for all of us. It has given us bonding and learning time in one. Even dad is amaze of how things are turning out. I can’t thank God enough for this!:)

By the way, you learned reading faster when I used your toys as part of the sentences. For example, we formed one sentence ” The big fat KUNG FU PANDA”. We also used Master shi-fu, Baby Po, Master Mantis and Master Tigress. You exclaimed ” mommy, ganito na lagi ang reading activity natin ha?” Okay. Noted my dear.:)

When you think that the lessons are too much to comprehend, you would moved to the table where the GLOBE is. Then you asked me about our location and the places of your mamus and uncle (Dubai and Australia). And before I forget, you also love to play “play money”. That ’s math. LOL!:)

I’m excited on the next lessons that we will have:) Meantime, let’s have fun learning!

Love,
Mommy

December 13, 2010

Long time no blog

Dear Anak,

Its been soooo long since I wrote you a letter. Now, I just have to say THANK YOU for being part of my journey. We have been together for almost everyday and we traveled to places together too–particularly Northern Luzon. At one point you were already getting used to our travels that you told me you “Pag uwi sa Manila, kalaro ko si Karl at —–(I forgot the girl’s name hehehe), Tapos pag punta nating Tuguegarao, si Angel naman at si Ate Kangkang”. I salute you for adjusting so easily with any environment you are in.

And yesterday, while we were in the jeep from GH office of FLP, you befriended a Maranao lady who was so amazed with you. I remembered Diane then.:) You always make me proud of you my dear. The lady headed to the MRT station where you waited for the train to passed by so you can wave at her. But we didn’t see her anymore. Anyway, I got her number and maybe we will see her one of these days in their store.:)

When we arrived at the TOQ, you were telling me “Mommy magbili na tayo ng gifts ko para sa mga playmates ko sa Davao ha. Sila Billy at Benjo”. Then, just tonight before we went to sleep, you told me and daddy “gusto ko magbigay ng regalo sa lahat ng tao sa buong pilipinas” Hahahaha! Magiging richest person in the world ka nga talaga! hahahaha! AMEN!:)

Keep that attitude my dear. O nga pala, before tayo natulog, nag pray ka for daddy na talagang tawa kami ng tawa. “Lord sana hindi na mag c- - - - - - n si daddy araw araw” hahaha.. Observant ka ha.

O nga pala, may ginawa kang di kanais nais habang nagbabayad ako ng bill ng cellphone natin. Napabili tuloy ako ng damit mo na bago hehehe. Pero first time ko din ikaw nakita na umiyak while I was away for about 10mins sa kakahanap ng damit mo.:) You did a great job obeying me and you just stayed where I left you — just outside the cellphone company’s office in the mall.

I’m sorry if I am impatient sometimes. But I want you to know that when you are asleep, I just look at you and praise God for having an angel like you in our lives. Thank you Anak.:) On my next letter il share your being business minded.:)

Love you,
Mommy

March 4, 2010

Simple ways to be a happier parent

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Thanks to Yahoo for another informative article on parenting. Now I had to repost this to remind me that after all, parenting is fun and a blessing, indeed!

Here is the Simple ways to be a happier parent

Two Simple Ways to Be a Happier Parent

By Nancy Shute , USNews.com

When Christine Carter became a parent, she realized that her work as a sociologist who studies happiness gave her a head start on being a good and happy parent. Rather than trying to solve problems in her family, she wanted to prevent them. That got her wondering what makes for happy families and children. The result of that questioning is Raising Happiness (Ballantine Books).

The book is chock-full of words—gratitude, forgiveness, optimism, and inner peace—I associate more with meditation than parenting manuals. But it’s not at all woo-woo. Carter grounds her path to happiness in solid science, including behavioral psychology, which explains why praise is much more powerful in getting children to behave than punishment or nagging. Many of the findings are surprisingly simple. For instance, would you like to know the one thing that will make children do better in school, help them have fewer emotional problems, and make them less likely to become obese or have drug or alcohol problems? Eat dinner together as a family.

Science and simplicity in the service of happier families: That sounds like a winner. So I called up Carter, executive director of the Greater Good Science Center at the University of California-Berkeley, and asked her how I could start making my own family happier.

She said to start off by asking two questions about your life as a parent:

1. When are you happiest with your kids?

2. What part of the normal day with your family routinely causes suffering?

Then make sure your day is structured so that you get routine, habitual happiness and so that you’re eliminating habitual pain.

Carter says that when she asked herself the second question, she realized that she hated getting her two daughters out the door for school. “Every single morning I was yelling at my kids [at] approximately the same time and for the same reason,” she says.

So she decided to restructure those mornings so they’d be a shared joy, or at least neutral. The science of changing habits says you have to start off supersmall and build over weeks to a bigger result. So she had the kids put their shoes by the door the night before. In the morning, “I ended up setting a timer,” Carter says. “It goes off twice. The first time it goes off, it means clear your dishes and go brush your teeth. The second is walk out the door to the bus.” By the next morning, she says, “we didn’t have such a bad morning. We had taken the first step.”

Just as she changed the family’s daily routine to make that one stressful period less miserable, Carter also focused on amplifying the moment that gives her the most joy in parenting. “For me, the most joy always comes at the end of the day when I’m putting the kids to bed” and they’re telling me about their three good things [that happened in the day]. That’s my most luscious thing, the thing I enjoy the most.” To make sure that she didn’t miss out on that moment when she had to work in the evenings, “we just moved [that bedtime routine] to after school. They sit on the couch with me and cuddle, and we read a book and they tell me about their three good things.”

Carter says that despite her deep knowledge of the science of happiness, she doesn’t always do the right thing as a parent. “It’s part of the journey, an incremental improvement process. But it’s amazing to me how much this stuff works when you have the intention to have a happier morning,” she says.

That’s my challenge for the week: Make a happy moment with my child part of our routine, and engineer out one annoying bit of parenting. And I challenge you do to the same, too. What will be your happiness moment? What suffering will you avoid?

February 26, 2010

You just won…

Dear Anak,

Last night, Feb 25, 2010, Dad and I were set for a date. Since Nanay N is here to be with you, we thought of going out, just the two of us. We missed our weekly dates for sometime now. I know dad has been so busy with work and he needs time to unwind and just enjoy. So by the afternoon (while we had our laundry — nanay, and I and you on the sides hehehe) we told you that you will be left behind with Nanay in the house. You agreed. Not until it was time for me and dad to go, after dinner.

You were crying and prodding us to tag you along. Since we cannot do that, dad told me to bring you to the room and stay for a while until you go to sleep. Unfortunately, I fell asleep too and dad too (while he waited for me at the living room). He woke me up after taps, but I was so sleepy already that I just transferred to our sleeping mat and slept beside him.

And oh, before you sleep, you told me ” Sana magsara na ang pupuntahan nyo, para di na lang kayo umalis”. I was laughing out loud. Hahahaha!

When we woke up this morning and told nanay what happened, she laughed out loud too. Oh well, you just won. But still, I would look forward to that date. :) I need to unwind too. Haaaayyy…

Meantime, enjoy your moments with Nanay whom you are calling Lola already. Cute!:) And by the way you are calling me “Mama” recently. You always knew how to get me, huh? Silly kid! Hahahah!

Love you,
mommy

February 16, 2010

Valentines Day and a day after

Dear Anak,

This is the continuation of our valentines day adventure. We left clark just after breakfast, around past 8am or almost 9am already. I really am not sure of the exact time. Hehehe. We had the chance to glimpse at the Air show (exhibition) while we were at the carpark. Amazing view indeed!

I was so tired that I fell asleep while we were on our way to NLEX from SCTEX. The next thing I know, we were already in Bulacan. You were also asleep from 9am to 1130am, so with Pongo. You must have been tired after the sleepless night on our way to Clark. We dropped by Inggo’s Grill where Dad attended a wedding and after that, we headed to tita manel’s house where we saw ate N after few months of her being away.

You were so excited to see her that you hugged her tight and started your never ending stories of where we have been and everything that you can remember. Daddy was so tired that he got his “pambahay” and fell asleep. While both of us were talking to tita Manel and Ate N, and you had your grand performance, as usual. YOU sang the song “Kawal ang Tatay ko”.

After that, you were playing with Pongo who’s enjoying his new environment. He just had his call of nature activities right after he was out of his cage. Speaking of cage, while we were on our way to tita manel’s, you were feeding POngo with chicha-corn and dog food too. And by the way, you consumed more than half of the 1-liter gatorade which daddy bought from a gasoline station on our way to Clark. You left us with almost empty bottle and said “O mommty, daddy, tinirhan ko kayo ha”. Then later, you consumed it all. Hahahaha! You are gatorade addict. Not to mention you had a particular favorite” TIger’s gatorade! Waaaaa!!! We bought 3 bottles of it when we were at MAKRO buying POngo’s cage. I wonder how you saw that Tigers gatorade where in fact we were so far from its display area. Very good vision, dear. Hahaha. Pilots need that!

Back at Tita Manels house, you were tagged by ate N to the other house and when you get back, you were already bathed because ate N said you complained ” Ang init ate N!”. When she asked if you wanted to take a bath, you immediately said yes. This bathing session happened after you had your call of nature thing. hahaha. Your digestive system is very good after all.

When you came back at home, you were waking me up and daddy. I heard you and eventually give in to your prodding. But daddy woke up later when dinner was ready. You already ate one apple and some pineapples before that. Then you also had lanzones which you showed me and said “Mommy, Ubas!” hahahaha! You made me laugh, really. I said, no, its not ubas but lanzones. And oh, you checked the rice cooker and saw brown rice. So you asked ate N, “brown rice na rin pala kayo?” When she said yes, you were jumping with joy and headed to me and said with all excitement “Mommy! Yehey! Brown rice na din sila! Di na sila mag kain ng white rice na bad food!” hahaha.. Your smile is up to your ears! hahahah!

After dinner, we already went to sleep and then we went home after breakfast. But before we left, Lolo B called ate N’s phone and was worried because he said he has been calling my phone since the other night after he saw the news about some navy personnel who had an accident at NLEX. When I checked my phone, he had 24 missed calls! Wow!

So we headed home and immediately, you headed to your room and check on your toys,while I was fixing our Smartbro internet connection and see if it works. Thanks God, it did! yehey!! so now, I can write letters to you more frequently.

You had another leap as of yesterday, February 15, 2010. I no longer had to clean up your ass, since you can already do it on your own! You were so proud and happy when you announced to me that you can already do it all alone.:) Wow! Congrats, boy! Clap! Clap! Clap!

When you woke up yesterday, you discovered that yo-yo is fun to play with, but you don’t know how to do it yet. So you let me do the yo-yo while you watch. We had fun yo-yo-ing. Soon, when your hands can control it, you can surely make it better than I do.

A while ago about 1:28pm, you fell asleep on your own again, just like yesterday. Of course, the I love you mommy dialogue was always there. YOu also told me that while we had our lunch earlier. We had pinakbet courtesy of our neighbor Ate Menchie. And you had the time of your life savoring ampalaya, sitaw, talong and okra and kalabasa! You never fail to amaze me with your love for vegetables. You made me more proud of you with that.

Also, you just came from tita Jenny’s house and played with her kids. When I called you to come home so we can have lunch, you also told your playmate to get inside their house so he can have lunch too! hahaha. You seem to be older than your age, always.

Now as I am writing this, I realized how time flies fast, really fast. I just hope than when the time comes for you to decide on your own, you will remember Mommy and Daddy’s guidance always. We will always be here if you need us, anytime.

We love you, son. :) Until my next letter.

February 15, 2010

Finally, those Hot Air Balloons!

Dear Anak,

Finally, after a year of waiting (again), we had a chance to witnessed those giant balloons at Clark on Valentines day! Yehey!! We arrived manila late in the evening (actually midnight already). We were the last to disembarked since I had to let you maximize your sleep in preparation for few hours of travel to Clark. OUr flight was actually delayed. Good that the 5J staff accomodated us for the earlier flight which was also delayed, but atleast we were not that late since we had to travel by land yet.

We dropped by Tito Cris house to get Pongo whom we earlier sent via PR’s flight 1250H departure. They only have 2 flights that carries live animals. One in the morning (first flight) and the next was that afternoon flight. When we sent him off, you almost cried because the staff who received him at the Cargo area never informed us that he will already put Pongo at the carrier and on to the ramp. So I told him that you wanted to say bye to Pongo and he agreed to bring you near the ramp just to get a glimpse of Pongo before he will be put inside the plane. And not only that, you also requested that we wait for the plane to leave so you can atleast say bye-bye to Pongo as the plane flies. So we waited more than an hour and had a quick lunch at the canteen.

While waiting at the waiting shed, we met Manong Rico who drives for one prominent business family in Davao. He said he had to wait for the plane to leave because that’s his SOP everytime his bosses fly. That is to make sure that the boss will have a ride if there are flight cancellations. While waiting for the plane to arrive and take off, we tried to make your Gibo video, which you did but, was very fast. I sent the video to Dad but he said he didnt understand it at all. Hahahah! I don’t know when you wanted to make it perfect so we can submit it already. I am excited for you and you are very much excited too. YOu always say “Idol ko si Gibo” mommy, especially when you learned that he is a pilot! Oh well, anything and everything about airplanes and pilots, you always love! hahaha..

SO much about what happened before our flight, now let me continue about our clark trip. Daddy had it all planned. He wanted a relaxing trip so we had about 2 stop overs at gasoline stations. The first stop, you were in deep sleep. WHile Pongo was noisy so we took him out of the cage and he had his call of nature thing, near chowkinG! hahahha! Good that there are not much people there and its an open area, so it was easy to clean the mess. Daddy requested for a soup and I envy him so I ordered one for me too, which I spilled over my shirt and pants hahaha. I was so excited to see Pongo out of the cage that I forgot I had a soup on my lap! Haaayyyy.. Getting old me. hehehe..

Our next stop was Petron where Daddy had to take a power nap. Although it was cut a lot of times because of the car’s aircon, he said he had a nice nap though. We arrived at Clark around 5am, it was still dark but boy, it was swarmed with cars and people! We were shocked! Traffic everywhere! Oh no! And we had to parked so far, so we had to walk back to the entrance too. Pongo was still shaky, maybe because its cold and there are just too many people there. You woke up already and Daddy carried you. We called kuya Nelvs to assist us in getting inside the area and on the way there, Pongo did his call of nature again. UgH! :)

We had to wait for few minutes since the balloons were still inflated when we arrived. You were so excited to see it that yo utold daddy to bring you near the balloons. After few minutes, balloons are everwhere! YeahhhoooO!!! You had a lot of pictures, and Pongo too! He got a lot of fans while people are taking pictures with the exhibits of the frogmen, Pongo had his own fans too! Amazing!

We had Tokyo Tokyo for breakfast and you already manage to eat on your own. That amazes daddy huh? Pongo was so noisy asking you for his share hahaha. We had this breakfast right on the grounds where we had a great view of the hot air balloons. The people seated next to us took pictures of pongo again. Waaahahahah!!!

It was a great way to celebrate Valentines Day, indeed! :) We had to hurry back to Manila to attend Kuya Dolins civil wedding. I didnt have shoes to wear, so we dropped by MOA to buy my shoes and our gift too. But we decided that I stay inside the car with you and we had our tuna for lunch and chica-corn from Bio Dynamis. Nice lunch! You peed twice just beside the car and you were so happy since I never assisted you in doing that. You are indeed growing, my dear. Before I know it, you will be a man. :)

As I am writing this, you are sleeping on Dad’s matress. And you brought yourself to sleep without me beside you, but with the assurance that I will just be here on the computer since lola A asked me to research about ALS exam results. So I decided to write this letter while you are sleeping. And oh, I am happy to inform you that we already have our Smart Bro working! Yehey! SO we now have unlimited surfing at home! ThE BEST!!

Before sleeping, you had your usual kiss and hug to me while saying “I Love you mommy”. A little later, you were asking if Winnie The POoh is in New York, which I said i do not know, lets find out when we get to teh States. Also, you told me “mauna na ako matulog sayo mommy ha”. That is actually your signal that you are already sleepy and is about to sleep.

This is it for now. In my next letter, I will write about our dropping by at Tita Manels house where we saw Ate N after few months. :) Bye for now.

Love,
Mommy

February 3, 2010

Never ending questions…

Dear Anak,

About three days ago (Monday, Feb 1, 2010) we went to V.P and you played for 30 minutes at their play area and I was there with you. You love the Winnie the Pooh computer game and I noticed that you were not after the “finish” lane of the game, but just the fun of it. You were even going backwards a lot of times especially on the part where you had to cross a single wood with a waterfall background. It was indeed a lovely site. When I asked you why you were going backwards instead of forward, you said ” May nakalimutan ako mommy. Tsaka Maganda ang view dito oh”. Nature lover indeed, like Mom and Dad.

After 30 minutes, we headed to the bakery where we bought a discounted Whole Wheat Bun which I just discovered last Sunday hahaha.. It’s nearer from us and cheaper! Yehey!!! When we were aboard the jeepney home, you had a glimpse of the stars and you hit me again with your matter-of-fact question: “Bakit sa gabi lang lumalabas ang Stars mommy?”

You made me laugh. :) I told you it’s because the Earth is dark at night so stars are visible. During the day, the sun “covers” the light of the stars so we can’t see it.

When we were walking home, you looked at the stars again and said, Wow! Ang ganda ng stars! (ehem! don’t ask me where you got your love for the stars. hehehe)

I love you dear and thank you for bringing sunshine in our world. You are a blessing.

Love,
Mommy

January 29, 2010

First Dog Bath..

Dear Anak,

Today, Jan 29, 2010 we had our first dog bath with Ponggo. :) We did it in the morning and put him in the balcon as not to get dirty again.

Last night, Jan 28, 2010 you said a very funny thing after watching the news about a NOMAD airplane of PAF that crashed in Cotabato City. When we were having dinner, out of the blue you just exclaimed ” Mommy tawagan nga natin si Tito Oyamats, sabihin mo sa kanya na wag na sya mag pilot ng ov10, dun na lang sya sa (commercial) airplane!” And you said that with your usual “kunot-nuo” hehehe.. I just texted tito oyamats and he was laughing out loud. He said ” Grabe talaga yang anak mo, alagaan mo ang mata nyan para maging piloto, at di matulad sa mata ng daddy nya” hehehe..

Well, if you will really become a pilot, then Dad will be glad. Ask him why when you can read this.:)

I love you dear.

Mommy

January 22, 2010

Difficult questions…

Dear Anak,

The past days, I realized your questions became more complicated that I do not know how to answer you without having to asked me WHY? Take a look at this:

YOu asked: Paano ako lumabas sa tyan mo?

I told you everything I could remember that day.

I was brought inside the operating room, had my general anesthesia without any pain at all, then heard the doctor shout “Cord Coil!”. That was the time they opened up my tummy and pulled you out hehehe… I heard your cry and realized they never brought you by my side yet, so I told the doctor ” Asan na anak ko Doc?”. She shouted “Ang baby, wala pa nakita ni Mommy”.

But when the nurse brought you back, I passed out already. When I was conscious again, I just saw daddy waiting outside the operating room, while I was at the delivery bed (is that what they call it?)” and ready to be transferred to the recovery room. I told daddy ” All is well” with the approved sign. Daddy said he was kinda afraid and thought that it was weird of me to give that sign. Well, I cannot blame him because the room mate I had in the recovery room was still unconscious after more than 12 hours of her operation. Daddy was worried that the effect on me might be the other way around, that I might not be able to stop talking. Hahaha!

I told you about your visitors, Lola A, Mam Openg, Tita Ning, Tito Buboy, and the Ola kids. They brought fruits for me. When you heard this you said “Bakit sayo lang ang fruits mommy? Ako pala?”. SO I had to explain to you again that babies don’t eat anything but milk until they reached 5 or 6 months old.

And not only that… few days after that, before going to sleep, you asked me again:

“Mommy, bad ba si Ampatuan Jr.?”

I was speechless. I don’t know what to say. What I remember was.. I told you ” I don’t know. When you grow big, don’t judge people. Each one of us were created perfect and good by God. In the end, its Him who will judge us.”

Since Mamu A was here, you had chance to peek on the TV , more on the news since she watch news frequently. That’s why I don’t want you to watch news because you learn a lot of things which your naive mind cannot comprehend yet and must not, anyway. After all, what would a little boy do with all the bad news around, when all you know is eat healthy and play and enjoy life?

In due time, you will understand things. And I hope when that time comes, you will grow compassionate and sensitive (like Daddy and which Mommy is learning hehehe) with others.

I love you dear and always proud and happy having you around.

Love,
Mommy

January 17, 2010

Whaattt????

Dear Anak,

Last night, January 16 2009, we were about to sleep when you requested that we play the “building blocks” game in my phone. I agreed and played a couple of rounds when out of the blue you just exclaimed ” Sana kasi touch screen na lang yan” (pointing to my phone). I was laughing out loud. You always caught me unaware huh? And where the the world did you learn the word TOUCHSCREEN? waaahahahaha

Then you introduced me to the friends of Bob the builder: Rolie the one in charge of the concrete, Lafi the one with long nose, and Mixer whom you dont know the name. You were telling me a story about them and then we fell asleep few minutes later. And Ate Ara told me you are already learning how to speak english all because of these videos you watched.

She also shared to me that you were so good in making “ice”. She was not supposed to let you join her but when she saw that you had better “ice packing” than her, she let you did it hahaha! Great job boy! Way to go!

Keep up the good work and I love you.

Mommy

January 9, 2010

Another day to remember

Dear Anak,

It’s the 9th day of January 2010 and you were playing again with Billy when I heard you shout. You had your newly bought airplane toy and Billy with his bulldozer toy. I asked you why you shouted and you said:

Kasi nilalagay nya yung bulldozer nya dito, eh run way to!

Hahahahah!!!

I love you Boy. I’m enjoying you more each day. What else do you have that would make us laugh out loud? I will surely journal it for you to read everything when the time comes.

Oh together with the airplane, we also bought your first Little Einstein Book entitled: Dinosaur After Dark. I wonder where did you discover that there is already a book on Little Einstein! But I’m glad you did it. Now you are more interested in reading, as you have always been. I think I should give a regular reading time since you have always been prodding me to read together.

And oh, even the bible huh! You love the stories in the Creation! Oh boy, I love that too! You wanted me to read more. And we will!:)

Lovelots,
Mommy

A funny day

Dear Anak,

You were playing toy guns with Billy and here are some of your conversations: (Dated Jan 8, 2010)

Billy: Barilin kita J.
YOu: Ay wag kay wala na anak si Mommy kung barilin mo ako.

I was laughing when I heard that conversation. But it didn’t end there. A little later, the teacher of Billy passed by and here is what transpired:

Billy: (called his teacher) Hello Mam!
You: Hello Mam!

After saying that, you run inside and told me: Mommy dumaan ang teacher namin ni Billy.

I really can’t stop laughing because how come she was your teacher, when all the while I am homeschooling you? hahahaha…

I love you son. Thank you for the joy you gave to your family.

Mommy

January 7, 2010

Happy 2010!

Dear Anak,

It’s been a looonng time and daddy has been bugging me to write again. He knows I love writing after all. But I don’t want to write unless I have read a lot. Need to refresh my mind, I think.

We spent the holidays in Manila. On christmas eve, we sent off Mamu M to the airport with Tita M, Tita P, Tito C and Mamu A. They flew first flight on 25th of December 2009. Actually it was only dad who sent them off because we can no longer fit in the car. They brought too many bags! Duh! What’s new, by the way? hahahah

Then we just spent the whole day sleeping and eating arrozcaldo made by Nanay Wennie. She was the official “taong bahay” that time. I was craving for pizza, but to no avail. So we settled for Andok’s chicken and a liter of Gatorade since there are no pineapple juice in can. Almost all stores were close in the mid-day of Christmas.

When we headed home (our home), I saw tita Jenny and her kids. On Christmas eve by the way, Tito Jun-jun gave you a bar of Cadburry’s chocolate. WE had to ate it fast (dad and I) so you will only have a very small portion of it. After all, you sneaked in the ref that day to get a share of chocolates from Mamu U and tita Ivy. When dad and I asked you how come you get chocolates without asking permission, you answered ” bakit kasi may chocolates pa sa ref eh”. Oh well, sayang din naman itapon.. hehehe. To make this chocolate story short, there were still 2 or 3 boxes/packs of chocolates at home. Dad said he will eat it when he’ll have his work out.

Back at tita Jenny’s house, you had a grand time playing with her kids. Ayaw mo na ngang umuwi eh hehehe. We are also glad to know that tita J will homeschool her kids this year! yehey! may kasama na tayo!!

This is all for now. I will write again soon. Love you!

Mommy

December 4, 2009

I miss this!

Dear Son,

Wow, its been sooooo long since I wrote a letter to you. Anyway, I just want to tell you that last week, we went to the school of Teacher Openg and you just did something amazing. We observed the Kinder class and when their lesson for the day started, you just surprised me when you answered the questions of the teacher like “what is the tagalog word for TOP and BOTTOM?”. You whispered to me and said “TAAS and BABA” mommy. Hahhaha! And you didn’t even go to school yet! hahaaha! Thanks to Baby Einstein, Baby Bumble Bee, Little Einstein and Blues Clues videos and our countless books. Keep up the good work!

Yesterday, you and ate N went to Ate A’s school. You surprised Ate A’s classmates when they said “kapatid mo to A? Ang talino. Mana sayo!”. You butted in and said ” Hindi no! Mana ako sa mommy at daddy ko!” hahahah! And when the flag retreat came, you followed the boyscouts and made a very snappy salute just like them. Hahahah! What else do you have at hand? Oh well, go go go darling. We will support you all the way.

Last night, I chatted with Aunt R in Macau and she said that her husband is playing the violin! Wow! When I learned about it, I told her you also love violin! So today, we’ll be heading to the mall and buy your violin! Daddy said I’m a stage mom hahaha! I’m just so excited with your interest on violin. She said when we go to their place, you will jam with her husband Yahoooo!!! So let’s start the ball rolling and start your violin lesson soon…

I still have to look for a kiddie golf set since its your first love after all. I know you are going to be a good golfer one day. I know because everyday, you just declare it — a golfer, a pilot, a fire fighter, a racer! Go go go dear!

Much Love,
Mommy

September 25, 2009

I’m sorry

Dear Anak,

I’m sorry for not sticking on our schedule recently. I have been pre occupied with so many things. I’m sorry too for sometimes I can’t help but get easily irritated when you interrupt me every time I am in the middle of my busy-ness. It dawned on me that everytime you act like that, it means you need attention– my full attention– and that I must be aware and enjoy your childhood for it only comes once.

Everytime you noticed my anger, you would easily say “I’m Sorry Mommy. Di ko na po yun ulitin”. And that makes me like a melted candle and hugged you and say “it’s okay son. I’m teaching you now while you are young so when you grow up, you will be a responsible citizen”. And you would reply “Opo Mommy”.

You know what made me write this ? Because I just watched a very beautiful video about a father and a son. The father is already gray haired and the son is around 40’s. They were both seated on the bench outside their house and the father asked the son “what was that?” after he heard the sound of the sparrow. The son answered “it’s a sparrow”, but when the father asked again for the 3rd time, the son lost his temper and shouted back at his father “I already said its a sparrow!!”. Then the father stood up, went inside the house and when he came back, he brought with him a small notebook. He handed it to his son and told his son to read it aloud. It says something like ” today, my son turned 3. We were at the park when he asked me “what is that? and i said “a sparrow”. He asked me that same question for 21 times and I never got tired of answering him 21 times. I even hugged him every time I answered.”

I almost cried after viewing it. I felt guilty for being hot tempered sometimes. From now on, I will only ENJOY and MAXIMIZE my time with you. Your questions I will now listen with full attention and treat each moment with you a blessing that not all mothers could have. I am so proud having a son like you. And thank you for learning first time obedience, even if it’s a bit difficult to really instill it in you, but I will never get tired of teaching you until you will fully learn.

We went to the BIR office the other day and today and you surprised me again when as soon as we got inside the building, you headed to the lounge and looked for a vacant seat. You were able to find one and joined the rest of the people in watching TV. When you came to me, I asked what was the show all about and why the people were laughing. You said ” Mr. Bean po mommy”. I’m shocked that even you know Mr Bean! How come? hahaha… And a lady in front of me said ” Anak mo yan? Ilang taon? Behave sya masyado no?”. She made that comment after she saw you just sitting there and waiting for me.

It’s a joy to hear compliments like that. Keep up the good work my dear.

I love you so much!

mommy

September 15, 2009

More questions from you

Dear Anak,

I forgot to write here than we were on our way to the airport the other day when out of the blue, you just asked me “Mommy, bakit tumatakbo ang jeep?. I said “kasi may makina sya. yun nagpapatakbo sa kanya”. And then I added “tanong mo kay daddy pag nag usap kayo” hahahaha

Di kinaya ng powers ko ang tanong mo. When I relayed it to dad, he said I should explain the combustion engine theory so you will understand. I thought to myself, waaahhhaaattt?? hahaha. Better, dad will explain to you soon.

Last night, before going to sleep, we called daddy and you made us laugh when you were singing “magsakay kami ng eroplano. Magpunta kami sa airport. Lagi na lang ganito ang buhay natin….” then continued singing the Tayong Dalaw lyrics hahahaha.. You’ve mixed it up boy! WAAHHH!! By the way, we already bought some gifts for Christmas yesterday. It’s so nice to look at it now under the tree. And for the record, finally, you were able to try SM’s train after few failed attempts on our past visits due to mechanical problems. It was a great date yesterday! Thank you for behaving and participating.

And yesterday too, you were able to answer MAZES in your activity book. You were so hooked in it that I decided to brought you a book on mazes which was on sale at NBC. Great to see your answers. Way to go!

Today (Sep 15 2009) you got sick. I don’t know why. Lolo B brought some tawa-tawa for you to drink. I hope you will feel better soon. Get well soon dear.

Love,
Mommy

September 13, 2009

Never say never…

Hi Anak!

We went to BIR office along Torres last Friday, Sep 11, 2009. We were in a hurry since it was past 4pm already. We took the tricycle that could squeeze in 10 or 12 passengers. I remember that same kind of tricycle which we usually took when my grandmother would bring me to Agdao in the 80’s. Anyway, back to our travel, it was just a minute or less travel to BIR office from the tricycle terminal. When we arrived at our destination, you made another smart surprise when you looked at the tricycle and asked me with amazement and seriousness in your eyes: ” Ay, mommy tricycle po pala yung sinakyan natin? Ginawa man nilang jeep!”. You made me laugh out loud. Your are very observant, very much like dad. Good job my dear little angel. Keep your observations coming and I’ll just be right here listening and ready to burst into laughter when needed. Hehehe…

And why is the title of the post never say never? Because when I made this post, we just finished viewing the speech of Michael Jordan after he was included in the Basketball’s Hall of Fame. And I just like what he said ” “One day you might look up and see me playing a game at 50,” he said. “Don’t laugh. Never say never, because limits, like fears, are often just an illusion.”

Again, Never say never, because limits, like fears, are often just an illusion. May you remember that when the time comes when you feel doubt or discourage. :)

Oh, today, September 13 2009 I also discovered the first homeschool in the Philippines since 1999. I am so excited that things are getting clearer and more precise now. Thanks God for this discovery. The school’s name is The Master’s Academy. And I learned that it’s okay to homeschool on our own without getting a curriculum (of course I have to make sure that you will learn the basics and the equivalent lessons for your stage) and then just take a PVT or Philippine Validation Test to see what level you will qualify once we decided to put you on a regular school later. It’s liberating indeed to know that there is nothing wrong with the lessons and information that I am currently teaching you.

Speaking of lessons, you just love to study the solar system recently. Earth and all there is are you latest lessons. But of course your all time favorite Airplanes and Trains are always part of our daily activities. We also had a kitchen time today. I brought you to the kitchen and cooked tinolang isda (maliliit na moro-moro or in tagalog galonggong). We had malunggay, kamatis and sibuyas dahon with it and a teaspoon of salt. Yummy lunch for a beautiful Sunday!

Back to Michael Jordan, here is the video of his talk that we both watched.


Love you my dear!
Mommy

August 30, 2009

Train up ac hild….

Dear Anak,

For one week now, we are on “training” again. I noticed that the Baby Wise learning you had when you were younger (infant to 1yr old) is slowly fading. Not that you’re becoming really “pasaway”, but it’s in the bible that a child can be foolish, if not trained. Now, I am not saying you are one but Daddy and I agreed that the best inheritance we can passed on to you is building your character. And the best time to start is now, while you are still young and your heart is still very much open for instructions and corrections as well.

Our first lessons for the week were: saying po and opo at all times, saying please and thank you when asking favor and after favor was granted, and of course, first time obedience. You got a couple (if not a lot) of spanking from me in order to learn these things though. Good news is that you are learning fast. Thanks God!

There will be more lessons to come my dear and I will never stop until you learn these things by heart. It is our desire to bring you up the way God wanted you to be. You must fulfill your destiny and in return, it is our commitment to raise you the Godly way. With the Grace of God, it can be done.:)

Love you,
Mommy

August 8, 2009

Could this be your future?

Hello anak,

When I saw this article about the best school in the US that is comparable to an Ivy League, I thought of you. Could this be your future? hehehe. At one point maybe Daddy is thinking along that line. hahaha. Me too. Hehehe But honestly, whatever or wherever your heart leads you, we will support you all the way. A business school would be possible too since you have been practicing to be a networker as early as now. You were already selling Forever Living’s Forever Kids to your playmates, telling them the benefits of this vitamins and to look at you as the proof! Hahahha! Way to go boy! We love you!

And oh, this could also be your future since you have always love golf ever since. Check out what Tiger Woods has done. Making another history. When your time comes, I would love to record all your “golf moments”. Meantime, let’s start looking for kiddie golf set - the real thing and check if the Makati Kiddie Golf course is still operational. I’m excited for you. hahaha! (Stage mom? hehehe)

Mommy and Daddy

July 27, 2009

Thank you Anak!

Dear Son,

Tonight, mommy came from Forever Living’s meeting with the new country managing director, Joel Milag. When I arrived home, I called ate A from the window and tried calling the cellphone which I left with you both, but to no avail. I even knocked on her room’s window a couple of times, but still no one is answering. I was already a bit worried because there were tiny drops of rain already and its really getting late. So I tried knocking on your room’s window thinking that Ate A is sleeping there. To my surprise and after many knock attempts calling Ata A’s name, I heard your voice saying “Mommy? Mommy?”. Then you did an amazing job as I instructed you to get out of your room and go to the sala and open the door for me. You followed even if you were half awake and half asleep. After opening the door for me, you had that cute smile as if telling me that “all is well now mommy, you are inside the house already”.

After few minutes, you went back to your room and continued sleeping. When i checked ate A’s room, there she is deep in dreamland hehehe.

I thank you son for a job well done tonight. I still can’t believe you did it, but you did! So what more can I say? You are simply amazing kid and I love you so much!!”

Much love,
Mommy

July 21, 2009

Learning how to draw, type and online games

Dear Anak,

Last July 18 (Saturday), you surprised me when you showed me your first ever drawing. You just showed it to me and said ” Mommy! Stop light!” wow! That’s a circle and a line connected to it. As if it was not enough, you draw another one which at first left me confused, but then you said ” Mommy, soft ball” Oh yeah, the oblong shape ball! Yehey!! Then, ate A taught you how to draw basket ball. So you learned that one too.:)

Now you are eager to draw airplanes (your all time favorite). I hope I will be able to take a picture of your drawings before you get to delete them hahahha…

And oh, you have also learned to play online games recently. The Cashflow for kids, SmartKid Rich Kid, and Thomas and Friends, Bob the bUilder and Rowee the Racing car.:) Of course there was Barney and Penguin on the sides. I’m amazed at how good you are in connecting puzzles of a train! Bravo!!

You also know how to type your name already. JJJJJJJJJ. That’s what you always do hahehheheheeh. :)

So what more surprises you have for us? We will watch out!

MEantime, enjoy childhood my dear…

Lovelots,.
Mommy

Confuse with words

Dear Baby,

The other night, we were about to go to sleep when I thought of cleaning/deleting messages in my phone. When I finally did it, I sighed ” Haaay salamat nalinis na rin ang messages”. Then with a no-brainer look, you answered me ” Bakit mommy madumi ang mga messages?” hahahahah! Okay. I should have said that the cellphone is now free of messages. Funny kid!

Yesterday, I was out of the house and then you gave me a call informing me that I have to come home because you have running nose and cough. But Ate A said you have slight fever. So in my “panicky” mode, I hurried home forgetting my umbrella at the Cinema and my change from KFC hahaha.. Now I had to be back there and claimed those stuff. I’m still awed at how motherhood had changed me. Now I know why they said that once you are a mother, you would give up everything just to be home to an ailing kid. I’m glad that you are feeling better now. Thank you Lord!:)

And oh, you also called Daddy and “ordered” him to come home because you missed him already. You kept on asking him “Kelan ka mag uwi dito Daddy?”. I pitty dad because I know he wanted to be home with us but he has to find time and resources to do so hehehehe…

Okay, this is all for now. I will update this more soon! Mwah love you!!!

Mommy

July 8, 2009

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June 22, 2009

Our family vacation

Dear Anak,

We had our first family vacation last week and it was full of worthwhile memories. Unexpected conversations and surprises from you:

When we went to Chocolate Hills, you said ” Mommy , di ba dito nagpunta sila Little Einstein?”. I was thinking and laughed out loud when I realized that you thought we were at the Pyramids of Egypt! hahahah!!

While we were on the Loboc River Floating Restaurant, I warning you not to run around or else someone might arrest you. Then with full attention, you looked around the place and said ” Hindi man yan sila police mommy!” Hahahahah!

At the hotel, you played a lot that you had sweat all over your body. I decided to just roll some tissue and place it on your back since I can’t find your cloth diaper (lampin) or towel. When you saw the tissue I placed on your back, you exclaimed (as if complaining) : ” mommy, bakit yan ang ilagay mo sa likod ko, pang-ihi mo man yan?” Hahahahahha!

You enjoyed swimming at the beach and at the pool. Morning till evening, you don’t want to get out of the water anymore. I am looking forward to more trips with you and more memories to be shared with you. We love you dear.

Mommy and Daddy

June 12, 2009

Long time no letter

Dear Anak,

I’m sorry for not writing for sometime now. I have been preoccupied with so many things lately. Rest assured that I am learning to balance everything and I am definitely enjoying it.

Just this week, when you woke up from afternoon nap, you just approached me (seems like you were a sleep walker, but I know you are very much awake already hehehe) and said ” Stress ako Mommy!” Hahahaha. I wonder how a 3 year old be stressed after an afternoon nap and how did you know that thing called STRESS? Hhahahaha. I think you heard it from me and Dad but I didnt expect you’d react to it that way and too soon at that. Oh well, you learn so fast.

Then on to another funny thing today June 12 2009. We were just in the house, relaxing and learning Cash Flow for Kids, your favorite game. As I was bringing you to sleep after feeding, you were sharing a lot of stories. One of it was: “Mommy, magbili tayo ng belt sa Garfield dun sa MOA ha”. I said ok ok, but you didnt stop there. YOu had more ” Bago tayo punta MOA, daan muna tayo sa Burger Machine”. Now that made me panic. Hahaha. Because you are not supposed to love these kind of instant/fast foods. So I said ” Of course not, that’s bad food”. ANd with an as-a-matter-of-fact answer, you said ” Eh di ako na lang magkain, wag ka na magkain.” hahahaha.

Well, I want to tell you that I am proud of you and that I know it was just a joke. You always love to make surprises and you know how I’ve been guarding you against junk foods. One friend who tried giving you chocolates even told me that you didnt get the chocolate and told her ” Magagalit si Mommy”. Hhahaha. Keep up the good work, boy. I love you so much and thank you for all the love and happiness you’ve brought in the family.

Lovelots,
Mommy

May 17, 2009

Obama’s speech at Notre Dame

Filed under: The Obamas

By The Associated Press The Associated Press

Text of President Barack Obama’s commencement address Sunday as the University of Notre Dame in South Bend, Ind., as released before delivery by the White House. The Rev. John Jenkins is the school’s president. The Rev. Theodore Hesburgh is Jenkins’ predecessor.

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Thank you, Father Jenkins, for that generous introduction. You are doing an outstanding job as president of this fine institution, and your continued and courageous commitment to honest, thoughtful dialogue is an inspiration to us all.

Good afternoon, Father Hesburgh, Notre Dame trustees, faculty, family, friends and the class of 2009. I am honored to be here today and grateful to all of you for allowing me to be part of your graduation.

I want to thank you for this honorary degree. I know it has not been without controversy. I don’t know if you’re aware of this, but these honorary degrees are apparently pretty hard to come by. So far I’m only 1 for 2 as president. Father Hesburgh is 150 for 150. I guess that’s better. Father Ted, after the ceremony, maybe you can give me some pointers on how to boost my average.

I also want to congratulate the class of 2009 for all your accomplishments. And since this is Notre Dame, I mean both in the classroom and in the competitive arena. We all know about this university’s proud and storied football team, but I also hear that Notre Dame holds the largest outdoor 5-on-5 basketball tournament in the world — Bookstore Basketball.

Now this excites me. I want to congratulate the winners of this year’s tournament, a team by the name of “Hallelujah Holla Back.” Well done. Though I have to say, I am personally disappointed that the “Barack O’Ballers” didn’t pull it out. Next year, if you need a 6-foot, 2-inch forward with a decent jumper, you know where I live.

Every one of you should be proud of what you have achieved at this institution. One hundred and sixty-three classes of Notre Dame graduates have sat where you are today. Some were here during years that simply rolled into the next without much notice or fanfare — periods of relative peace and prosperity that required little by way of sacrifice or struggle.

You, however, are not getting off that easy. Your class has come of age at a moment of great consequence for our nation and the world — a rare inflection point in history where the size and scope of the challenges before us require that we remake our world to renew its promise; that we align our deepest values and commitments to the demands of a new age. It is a privilege and a responsibility afforded to few generations — and a task that you are now called to fulfill.

This is the generation that must find a path back to prosperity and decide how we respond to a global economy that left millions behind even before this crisis hit — an economy where greed and short-term thinking were too often rewarded at the expense of fairness, and diligence, and an honest day’s work.

We must decide how to save God’s creation from a changing climate that threatens to destroy it. We must seek peace at a time when there are those who will stop at nothing to do us harm, and when weapons in the hands of a few can destroy the many. And we must find a way to reconcile our ever-shrinking world with its ever-growing diversity — diversity of thought, of culture and of belief.

In short, we must find a way to live together as one human family.

It is this last challenge that I’d like to talk about today. For the major threats we face in the 21st century — whether it’s global recession or violent extremism, the spread of nuclear weapons or pandemic disease — do not discriminate. They do not recognize borders. They do not see color. They do not target specific ethnic groups.

Moreover, no one person, or religion, or nation can meet these challenges alone. Our very survival has never required greater cooperation and understanding among all people from all places than at this moment in history.

Unfortunately, finding that common ground — recognizing that our fates are tied up, as Dr. King said, in a “single garment of destiny” — is not easy. Part of the problem, of course, lies in the imperfections of man — our selfishness, our pride, our stubbornness, our acquisitiveness, our insecurities, our egos; all the cruelties large and small that those of us in the Christian tradition understand to be rooted in original sin. We too often seek advantage over others. We cling to outworn prejudice and fear those who are unfamiliar. Too many of us view life only through the lens of immediate self-interest and crass materialism; in which the world is necessarily a zero-sum game. The strong too often dominate the weak, and too many of those with wealth and with power find all manner of justification for their own privilege in the face of poverty and injustice. And so, for all our technology and scientific advances, we see around the globe violence and want and strife that would seem sadly familiar to those in ancient times.

We know these things; and hopefully one of the benefits of the wonderful education you have received is that you have had time to consider these wrongs in the world, and grown determined, each in your own way, to right them. And yet, one of the vexing things for those of us interested in promoting greater understanding and cooperation among people is the discovery that even bringing together persons of good will, men and women of principle and purpose, can be difficult.

The soldier and the lawyer may both love this country with equal passion, and yet reach very different conclusions on the specific steps needed to protect us from harm. The gay activist and the evangelical pastor may both deplore the ravages of HIV/AIDS, but find themselves unable to bridge the cultural divide that might unite their efforts. Those who speak out against stem cell research may be rooted in admirable conviction about the sacredness of life, but so are the parents of a child with juvenile diabetes who are convinced that their son’s or daughter’s hardships can be relieved.

The question, then, is how do we work through these conflicts? Is it possible for us to join hands in common effort? As citizens of a vibrant and varied democracy, how do we engage in vigorous debate? How does each of us remain firm in our principles, and fight for what we consider right, without demonizing those with just as strongly held convictions on the other side?

Nowhere do these questions come up more powerfully than on the issue of abortion.

As I considered the controversy surrounding my visit here, I was reminded of an encounter I had during my Senate campaign, one that I describe in a book I wrote called “The Audacity of Hope.” A few days after I won the Democratic nomination, I received an e-mail from a doctor who told me that while he voted for me in the primary, he had a serious concern that might prevent him from voting for me in the general election. He described himself as a Christian who was strongly pro-life, but that’s not what was preventing him from voting for me.

What bothered the doctor was an entry that my campaign staff had posted on my Web site — an entry that said I would fight “right-wing ideologues who want to take away a woman’s right to choose.” The doctor said that he had assumed I was a reasonable person, but that if I truly believed that every pro-life individual was simply an ideologue who wanted to inflict suffering on women, then I was not very reasonable. He wrote, “I do not ask at this point that you oppose abortion, only that you speak about this issue in fair-minded words.”

Fair-minded words.

After I read the doctor’s letter, I wrote back to him and thanked him. I didn’t change my position, but I did tell my staff to change the words on my Web site. And I said a prayer that night that I might extend the same presumption of good faith to others that the doctor had extended to me. Because when we do that — when we open our hearts and our minds to those who may not think like we do or believe what we do — that’s when we discover at least the possibility of common ground.

That’s when we begin to say, “Maybe we won’t agree on abortion, but we can still agree that this is a heart-wrenching decision for any woman to make, with both moral and spiritual dimensions. So let’s work together to reduce the number of women seeking abortions by reducing unintended pregnancies, and making adoption more available, and providing care and support for women who do carry their child to term. Let’s honor the conscience of those who disagree with abortion, and draft a sensible conscience clause, and make sure that all of our health care policies are grounded in clear ethics and sound science, as well as respect for the equality of women.”

Understand — I do not suggest that the debate surrounding abortion can or should go away. No matter how much we may want to fudge it — indeed, while we know that the views of most Americans on the subject are complex and even contradictory — the fact is that at some level, the views of the two camps are irreconcilable. Each side will continue to make its case to the public with passion and conviction. But surely we can do so without reducing those with differing views to caricature.

Open hearts. Open minds. Fair-minded words.

It’s a way of life that has always been the Notre Dame tradition. Father Hesburgh has long spoken of this institution as both a lighthouse and a crossroads. The lighthouse that stands apart, shining with the wisdom of the Catholic tradition, while the crossroads is where “differences of culture and religion and conviction can coexist with friendship, civility, hospitality and especially love.” And I want to join him and Father Jenkins in saying how inspired I am by the maturity and responsibility with which this class has approached the debate surrounding today’s ceremony.

This tradition of cooperation and understanding is one that I learned in my own life many years ago — also with the help of the Catholic Church.

I was not raised in a particularly religious household, but my mother instilled in me a sense of service and empathy that eventually led me to become a community organizer after I graduated college. A group of Catholic churches in Chicago helped fund an organization known as the Developing Communities Project, and we worked to lift up South Side neighborhoods that had been devastated when the local steel plant closed.

It was quite an eclectic crew. Catholic and Protestant churches. Jewish and African-American organizers. Working-class black and white and Hispanic residents. All of us with different experiences. All of us with different beliefs. But all of us learned to work side by side because all of us saw in these neighborhoods other human beings who needed our help — to find jobs and improve schools. We were bound together in the service of others.

And something else happened during the time I spent in those neighborhoods. Perhaps because the church folks I worked with were so welcoming and understanding; perhaps because they invited me to their services and sang with me from their hymnals; perhaps because I witnessed all of the good works their faith inspired them to perform, I found myself drawn — not just to work with the church, but to be in the church. It was through this service that I was brought to Christ.

At the time, Cardinal Joseph Bernardin was the archbishop of Chicago. For those of you too young to have known him, he was a kind and good and wise man. A saintly man. I can still remember him speaking at one of the first organizing meetings I attended on the South Side. He stood as both a lighthouse and a crossroads — unafraid to speak his mind on moral issues ranging from poverty, AIDS and abortion to the death penalty and nuclear war. And yet, he was congenial and gentle in his persuasion, always trying to bring people together; always trying to find common ground. Just before he died, a reporter asked Cardinal Bernardin about this approach to his ministry. And he said, “You can’t really get on with preaching the Gospel until you’ve touched minds and hearts.”

My heart and mind were touched by the words and deeds of the men and women I worked alongside with in Chicago. And I’d like to think that we touched the hearts and minds of the neighborhood families whose lives we helped change. For this, I believe, is our highest calling.

You are about to enter the next phase of your life at a time of great uncertainty. You will be called upon to help restore a free market that is also fair to all who are willing to work; to seek new sources of energy that can save our planet; to give future generations the same chance that you had to receive an extraordinary education. And whether as a person drawn to public service, or someone who simply insists on being an active citizen, you will be exposed to more opinions and ideas broadcast through more means of communications than have ever existed before. You will hear talking heads scream on cable, read blogs that claim definitive knowledge, and watch politicians pretend to know what they’re talking about. Occasionally, you may also have the great fortune of seeing important issues debated by well-intentioned, brilliant minds. In fact, I suspect that many of you will be among those bright stars.

In this world of competing claims about what is right and what is true, have confidence in the values with which you’ve been raised and educated. Be unafraid to speak your mind when those values are at stake. Hold firm to your faith and allow it to guide you on your journey. Stand as a lighthouse.

But remember too that the ultimate irony of faith is that it necessarily admits doubt. It is the belief in things not seen. It is beyond our capacity as human beings to know with certainty what God has planned for us or what he asks of us, and those of us who believe must trust that his wisdom is greater than our own.

This doubt should not push us away from our faith. But it should humble us. It should temper our passions, and cause us to be wary of self-righteousness. It should compel us to remain open, and curious, and eager to continue the moral and spiritual debate that began for so many of you within the walls of Notre Dame. And within our vast democracy, this doubt should remind us to persuade through reason, through an appeal whenever we can to universal rather than parochial principles, and most of all through an abiding example of good works, charity, kindness and service that moves hearts and minds.

For if there is one law that we can be most certain of, it is the law that binds people of all faiths and no faith together. It is no coincidence that it exists in Christianity and Judaism; in Islam and Hinduism; in Buddhism and humanism. It is, of course, the golden rule — the call to treat one another as we wish to be treated. The call to love. To serve. To do what we can to make a difference in the lives of those with whom we share the same brief moment on this earth.

So many of you at Notre Dame — by the last count, upwards of 80 percent — have lived this law of love through the service you’ve performed at schools and hospitals; international relief agencies and local charities. That is incredibly impressive, and a powerful testament to this institution. Now you must carry the tradition forward. Make it a way of life. Because when you serve, it doesn’t just improve your community, it makes you a part of your community. It breaks down walls. It fosters cooperation. And when that happens — when people set aside their differences to work in common effort toward a common good; when they struggle together, and sacrifice together, and learn from one another — all things are possible.

After all, I stand here today, as president and as an African-American, on the 55th anniversary of the day that the Supreme Court handed down the decision in Brown v. the Board of Education. Brown was of course the first major step in dismantling the separate but equal doctrine, but it would take a number of years and a nationwide movement to fully realize the dream of civil rights for all of God’s children. There were freedom rides and lunch counters and Billy clubs, and there was also a Civil Rights Commission appointed by President Eisenhower. It was the 12 resolutions recommended by this commission that would ultimately become law in the Civil Rights Act of 1964.

There were six members of the commission. It included five whites and one African-American; Democrats and Republicans; two Southern governors, the dean of a Southern law school, a Midwestern university president, and your own Father Ted Hesburgh, president of Notre Dame. They worked for two years, and at times, President Eisenhower had to intervene personally since no hotel or restaurant in the South would serve the black and white members of the commission together. Finally, when they reached an impasse in Louisiana, Father Ted flew them all to Notre Dame’s retreat in Land O’ Lakes, Wis., where they eventually overcame their differences and hammered out a final deal.

Years later, President Eisenhower asked Father Ted how on Earth he was able to broker an agreement between men of such different backgrounds and beliefs. And Father Ted simply said that during their first dinner in Wisconsin, they discovered that they were all fishermen. And so he quickly readied a boat for a twilight trip out on the lake. They fished, and they talked, and they changed the course of history.

I will not pretend that the challenges we face will be easy, or that the answers will come quickly, or that all our differences and divisions will fade happily away. Life is not that simple. It never has been.

But as you leave here today, remember the lessons of Cardinal Bernardin, of Father Hesburgh, of movements for change both large and small. Remember that each of us, endowed with the dignity possessed by all children of God, has the grace to recognize ourselves in one another; to understand that we all seek the same love of family and the same fulfillment of a life well-lived. Remember that in the end, we are all fishermen.

If nothing else, that knowledge should give us faith that through our collective labor, and God’s providence, and our willingness to shoulder each other’s burdens, America will continue on its precious journey towards that more perfect union. Congratulations on your graduation, may God bless you, and may God bless the United States of America.

May 12, 2009

Cockroach management the green way

There is an interesting article on Good Riddance to Roaches where you can check on ways to get rid of cockroaches! Check it out and learn:)

May 11, 2009

Daddy’s turn

Dear Anak,

On May 8, 2009 (Friday), I did the laundry and you asked me what time is it. I asked daddy to teach you how to “read” the clock. I smiled as I heard daddy explaining the short hand (minute hand) and long hand’s function. Cute! What a blissful day! It was 10:40 am. Daddy assisted me in my laundry so we finished sooner than my regular wash day. Yehey!

On Saturday, May 9, 2009 we were scheduled for a family day with the whole officers and staff and their families. At the beach, you and daddy were so engrossed with the world that you both had created hahaha., Dad was pulling you while swimming. You were on top of your newly bought rubber boat (our gift for you on your birthday). KUlang na lang number sa likod ng life jacket mo at paddle, mukhang si 01 ka na talaga! HAHAHAHA! You were on the beach the whole day and I was so glad to see you and dad enjoying each other:)

Until the next family day… oh by the way, today is Monday and you just got sick since yesterday. Haaay.. Get well soon dear.

Love,
Mommy

Why they call it TAPS?

Dear Anak,

Last Friday evening (May 8, 2009) Daddy attended happy hour at FB and so we were left at home the whole day. After dinner, you played with your new wood train given by Mamu Rafi. Then when I checked the time, it was already past 9pm so we need to go to sleep. As always, before sleeping, you have a lot of stories to tell and questions to ask. JUst like after hearing the bell that signals TAPS (or sleeping time) for the camp, you just asked me:” Bakit TAPS ang tawag nila daddy dyan? Eh Torotot yan eh!” HAHAHAHAH! My sleepiness was gone when you asked that. And it seems that you were not satisfied with my laugh yet, when I told you I love you baby , you replied “I love you too Mommy. Ano yung too? Bakit too?” I said too means “also”. And you said , ” I love you three mommy” And we both laugh out loud.

Simple joys. Yet very memorable and worth keeping forever. Thanks for sharing these with me, dear. I love you three Heheheh!

Mommy

May 2, 2009

Conversations

Dear Anak,

You have been answering phone calls recently and people who heard you are so amazed of how well you can get into a conversation. Even Daddy was shocked to hear you on the phone today. I miss you my dear. I have been busy getting myself back with FLP. In time, you will understand everything. For now, enjoy every moment of your childhood.:) I love you!

Mommy

April 28, 2009

You’re a boy

Dear Anak,

Last night, you were already cranky and very sleepy. It was sleeping time — 9pm and I was still hooked with the new telenovela Only You plus the internet on the sides. When I finally turned off the PC and went out to be with you on the other room, I remembered I have to fill up Daddy’s docs which will be needed early morning today. When I told you about it, I was shocked with your response:

“Ay mommy naman, wag na yan gawin. Matulog na tayo”.

Haaaay… what else do you have to day? hehehe..

And oh, did I tell you that you have been calling me “mama” for the past days. When asked why a sudden changed from mommy to mama, you said “para matipid” Hahahahah!

Almost always, regardless of the question, as long as its WHY? you would answer “para matipid” hahahaha!

Love you son
Mama

April 11, 2009

The Sunset date

Dear Anak,

Wow, its been sometime since I haven’t sent you a letter. Last Maundy Thursday (for Catholics), April 9, 2009 Daddy gave us a call while you had your afternoon nap. When I told you about his call, you had a very brilliant smile –a glowing face to be exact. I know you are excited to see him, me too. When you woke up, we went to Nicel and KY at the Training area where you played the Indiana Jones rope with some kids (sons and daughter of Dad’s workmate). You were so excited and thrilled with the idea that you can fly while you hang on to that rope. Oh, you didn’t do it on your own yet, you were cuddled by either the Kuya or the Ate who played with you. Eitherway, your happiness was really onvious with matching wave of hands at me every now and then. I wish I can join you in that swing soon. I’ll have to wear my jogging pants for that. Hahahah!

After Ate and Kuyas left, we decided to explore the seawall. And bingo! There was that beautiful sunset from our vantage point. It was so lovely and so perfect while we seated at the top of those giant rocks beside the seawall. You even loved to hopped from one stone to the other. You made me nervous, huh! While there, we called Tatay whom we haven’t talk for weeks. He missed us, particularly you, so much! I realized that sunsets are gone too fast. I even thought of brining a watch the next time we go sunset viewing. We tried to take a peek at the sunset again yesterday (holy Friday — April 10, 2009) but we were already late and what was left for us to witness were its magnificent reflections. The pinkish effect of the sun’s reflection at the buildings on the opposite side were pretty nice. Today (meaning in a while because its already past 3pm as Im writing this), we will try to catch sunset again.

We also had some lessons yesterday: Waves, sea, birds, sky, rocks, and oh– Jellyfish! You are experiencing these first hand and you are learning really fast. Praise God! We also waited for some people to go ashore after they went on net fishing. Although they haven’t catch fishes that much, we did have fun watching them as they were shouting at each other for coordination so that fishes won’t go out of net. Hahahha. But definitely they had fun– and they already had a previous catch like half a pale of a container. Not bad for amateur fishers who just did it for fun and for dinner, I guess. Hehehe…

This sunset date discovery has been great for you and me and soon, with daddy. We won’t have to go so far just to experience nature and be with our inner selves at the same time. I have also been thinking hard if we can have our 7th year wedding anniversary here hahahaha… It definitely epitomes the sea, air and land concept I want to have. Not to mention it wouldn’t cost much (aside from the cleaning, decoration and installation of big tents! hehehe). Really, I’m serious I might propose this to Dad when he comes home. After all, we still have few years to prepare. Hahhaha!!

O sya, I’m waiting for you to wake up so we can walk to our sunset date again… I love you my dear!

Mommy

March 30, 2009

Leaving computers on overnight?

Check this out and you will never leave your computers on overnight again or you’ll feel guilty hehehe… Here is the news from: YAHOO.

And speaking of computers, Beware of Conficker worm on APRIL 1!.

March 29, 2009

We voted for EARTH!

Yes! Our family voted for Earth! YEHEY!!!

And yes, even at hubby’s workplace, they voted for earth too. We heard announcement made a day before that they will turn-off the electricity in the entire area to join the whole world in voting for earth against global warming.

It feels good, really! I have been voting for earth ever since. In fact, our bill last month was only 200plus pesos! Waaaahhh!!! I didn’t have aircon at home kasi. Electric fan lang. Usually naka off na din pag madaling araw. hehehe.. ;)

Let’s vote for earth everyday!!

A news about the event can be seen here at YAHOO

March 14, 2009

Vote for EARTH on March 28!

VOTE EARTH againts global warming on MARCH 28, 2009 from 8:30pm to 9:30pm, turn off your lights/electricity.

Let’s join the whole world as we make a stand against global warming.

We can make a difference if we ACT now.:)

March 13, 2009

Easy Non toxic Green cleaning

I love Yahoo Green news. I could spend hours of hours reading about very informative articles on toxic free and environment friendly tips. One of the lates discoveries I have is about cleaning tips without using the usual moriatic acid and other toxic materials.

CLICK HERE to find out more!






















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