HOMElife: A promising career at home!

This is for the benefit of the doubt. For years of being a homemaker, I have always been prodded with questions like “No regrets?”, “Are you happy?”, “You didn’t miss your career?, “ Isn’t that boring?”, “How can you do that?”, etc.. etc..

Now, I think I have to answer this (again). I remember someone from Singapore who leaves me a note in my blog and asked me a couple of questions. I was particularly struck with her “How did I “survived” question”. Here’s how.

First, I didn’t see it as a “rigid” training but more of an act of love. (ehem! I know it’s a cliché but its true!). When I married my husband few years ago, I know I would be facing another chapter in my life. I had training on cooking but it was a fun learning experience, never a torture. I can’t believe I didn’t even know how to fry an egg back then. My ever patient and understanding husband required me to cook every meal we eat everyday until I learned the craft by heart. Now, I’m no chef but I can prepare and cook healthy dishes. A total opposite of what I was when we were newly weds.

Second, I never stop learning. I read books from time to time and my husband and I read the bible together (as much as possible). I would also like to give credit to Dr Barbara De Angelis who wrote the book “Secrets of men every woman should know” and “What women want men to know”. She opened my eyes to the world and psychology of men. I also asked married couples around me. I learned from them, get some tips and apply some in our relationship. Before I gave birth, I read the “Lamaze Method” book on natural child birth and correct breathing. Then I also had Baby Wise (now Let the Children Come) Series on how to raise a child after God’s design. Now that I’m back on business, I just bought some self help business books. Not to mention my daily doze of Proverbs from the bible. I also joined an egroup that talks about home management and bought a book for “stay-at-home Moms”. It’s a never ending learning experience.

Third, I enjoy everything that is in stored for me: My family, friends and business. I maximize whatever I have. When I wake up each morning, I declare positive things like success, good health, great sales, righteousness, peace and joy! I don’t hope for it. I believe it is happening, I let it happen and say “Thank you, Lord for it is done!”.

Fourth, I know my limitations. I’m no superwoman and I know when I need to work and when to rest. When I hear myself getting easily irritated, it’s a warning sign that I need a break; take a walk around the neighborhood or in the mall or rush to our favorite Thai Massage. And hopefully soon, I’d be back to mountain climbing and biking again.

And last but not the least, I still date my ex-boyfriend: my husband. During the first year of our marriage, we date almost everyday. We bike together, walk to the mall (we leave near NCCC Palawan then), snorkel and dive, visit places, eat out and talk during his free time. It doesn’t need to be in an expensive restaurant. Most of our dreams and aspirations were tackled in a nipa hut beside the sea, at the terrace, bench under the talisay tree or in our room. Now that we have a baby, we find time to go out for a day each week. This is what married couples usually missed when they have children. Most of them find it a waste of time. Believe me (and others who are still dating —- like Bo Sanchez and his wife! Hehehehe) it is a must in a marriage. An understanding partner, who accepts you unconditionally, is of course a big factor in a relationship. I’m blessed to have one.

A husband and a wife relationship is God’s design and it is therefore perfect. From our end, we need to nurture it with love, care and attention so it grows and inspires others to believe that one never loses an identity in marriage, rather it enriches one’s self. I know because I’m living that kind of life nowJ

Happy Sunday everyone!:)